Have you ever gone
through a difficult time in your life? A period when you felt helpless, lonely and
powerless to deal with your circumstances and destiny? Yes, we all have.
Many of us have
experienced the tragedy of abusive childhoods, broken relationships or the loss
of a loved one. The easiest thing we normally to do in times like these is to
blame other people or circumstances for your life, your state of mind, your
finances and career.
It's so easy to
blame an abusive parent for the way you are today, or a broken relationship for
destroying your ability to love again. But blame is a very disempowering
emotion – it takes that Will and power away from you.
It places on others
the responsibility for your life, your emotions, yourself. It disempowers you
because you cannot change people, circumstances or the moment. The only thing
you can change is yourself and the way you react to them.
Some people go
through their lives blaming others, living in hopelessness and despair. But,
with the exception of child abuse or losing someone you love, no one can do
anything to you that you do not give them the permission to do.
By choosing to let
things happen the way they do, you are as much to blame for the consequences.
It takes a lot of courage to accept that you're the way you are because of the
choices you made. But it can be very empowering indeed.
The simple act of
taking responsibility for yourself and your life is the first step towards
picking up the pieces and moving on. When you shift the onus of change to
yourself, the constraints of the past are lifted and you can be anything you
choose to be.
True empowerment is
not about taking control, passing laws, fighting injustice or changing the
world. Empowerment starts from within. It comes from your willingness to be
responsible for what is happening to you, your life and your world.
At some point in
our lives we all face adversity. Some of us blame others, while others own
responsibility and get on with their lives.
The way we deal
with our pain and let it transform us makes the difference between winning and
losing the battle. When you realise that and act on it, you are truly the
master of your own destiny.
How we chose our moments decides how our tomorrow will stand.
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